Today my Honey and I celebrate 29 years of wedded bliss. OK maybe not always bliss. We have been married more than half of my life. I have known him since I was almost 12.
Many of you know our story, but some of you don’t.
Rod and I met when I was in foster care. His sister Fay was my foster parent, who later became known as mom, and to this very day is my mom! When we came into her care way back when, Rod was then considered my uncle and he was the cool kind of uncle that always brought his guitar and played songs we could hear off the radio and some goofy ones I’d never heard before. One of which I heard on a cassette tape (yes this was back in the day) and I fell in love his voice from that point on. I had a crush on him when I was 12 which I eventually out grew, since he was 12 years older than me and was committed to someone else at the time.
After I graduated and got a place of my own I became engaged and had asked Rod if he would sing at the wedding. He refused. I was heartbroken and very disappointed. How could my cool uncle Rod not sing, he did it for all the rest of the family!
A couple months more went by and I called off the engagement. I discovered that being espoused to someone addicted to pot and an alcoholic was not a healthy choice and God got me out of there!
Another few months later Fay, me, and Rod started hanging out on Friday and Saturday evenings going bowling, out to eat, and enjoying each other’s company. Rod began coming over and we would tinker around in my dad’s workshop. I was attempting to build a shelf and Rod had volunteered to help me. I needed an oil change done on my Ford Torino and he went with me to K-Mart to get the supplies. Simple adventures and a romance between Rod and I began. We were kind of keeping it quiet for a while because of the age difference and knowing that once it was out, that I was dating my uncle, the family may be a bit undone.
We were right about being concerned. It was hard at first. Rod’s daughter was only 3 and a half when we started dating and people wanted to make sure she would not be confused and unsettled. Many wondered how 2 people with the track record we each had could even be successful at dating, let alone getting married.
I have told many family members, friends, and others over the years the testimony of Rod and I. How God is so good about turning things around. He took two people that did everything backwards and created a new direction of forwards for us. We are together today because of the great love we share for each other and in Jesus Christ.
We could never have surpassed the odds of still being married without the hope we have and belief we share in a Savior that heals and provides a way for each and every one of us.
Our life together is fairly simple in that we don’t do much in spending for celebration, but we do, do much, in recognizing the moment, each other, and God for such an incredible journey. We will probably go grab a cup of coffee and take a brief walk to commemorate our day. We have agreed to do the fancy meal after Valentine’s Day has come and gone and the prices return to somewhat normal. (Part of the hazard of choosing a wedding date so close to the sweetheart’s day.)
Remember I mentioned above Rod not wanting to sing at my wedding to another man. Well the truth about this came out later after Rod and I had been married for some time. Rod confessed that he did not want to sing because he discovered he was jealous and did not want me to marry that man, but him. (Ah how sweet)
Happy Anniversary to my Honey and Happy Valentine’s Day to those of you who are reading this, may God bless you and keep you always!
Here is a great story about keeping romance alive and well by an acquaintance of mine Jodi Dietrick
Man’s Wedding Band Lost
Rod my husband lost his wedding band about 3 weeks ago. We were both very bummed. We will celebrate 29 years of wedded bliss this February and it was just something that I really did not want to hear, “Honey I lost my wedding band. I have looked everywhere and I cannot find it anywhere!”
We tore apart the bedroom looking under the bed, in the dresser drawers, through the things on his nightstand, in shirt pockets and coat pockets. In his tote bag and around the guitars and equipment. Near and around his computer area and throughout the garage. Anywhere we could think of.
He and I prayed and asked God please, please, please let us find this ring!
It is not about the cost, though I did wonder what if someone else found it would they just turn it in, exchange the gold for cash. It would not have any of the sentimental meaning that it has for the two of us. He has worn it sense we married and it has been part of him and us and that whole illustration of a band being like the circle of love, and now it is somewhere out there just rolling around. Ugh!
So we were disappointed, yet Rod continued to pray, I did too, but he more than me maybe because I lost the emerald that was in my ring. A gift Rod had given me for our 10th Wedding Anniversary while wrapping items for location closure in a warehouse while at work. And it took me two weeks to tell him about that! I was so scared to say hey guess what I lost? It was not found and my heart still aches over it. God did however provide a replacement stone. I certainly do not wear it while doing any laborious stuff anymore though!
Rod called me the other night and said, “guess where I…” that was all he got out of his mouth before I blurted out, “Where did you find it?!” Funny being married so long it doesn’t take many words to know what is coming next.
He did find it, or I should say Big Bird found it. Big Bird is one of the guys he works with, obviously not his real name.
Rod and Big Bird were in the warehouse unloading product and there it was lying on the floor as the fork lift moved another pallet full parts the gold shimmered and glistened and caught the eye of Big Bird.
God works that way, he glistens and shimmers and catches the eyes of those who are near. The testimony of finding the ring is better because someone else found it. I told Rod how wonderful is that, that Big Bird found it right there and could know that God answers the prayers of those he loves.
Rod could have found it somewhere on his own and he and I would have been grateful for it. But God revealed the ring to someone else so that a bit of who He is could be shared for the testimony of His name!
Wedding band lost and found!
Become encircled by the one who sent his only son just for you!
BTW his name is Jesus, do you know him?
I received an email from a friend this morning that at first read caused me to scream (in my head of course) another chain email, REALLY!? I am just so tired of the well meaning blessing threatening in the name of Jesus or for the sake of Jesus emails I receive.
First and foremost: I am a Christian. A bible believing born again, bible thumping Christian. And I am a Pastor, Co-Pastor to be exact. My husband and I minister in a sweet family home fellowship called tfc or That Fish Church ><((((*> .
So it is not the fact that the emails are Christ based, but the offense comes in for me at the point of saying I must not be a believer or I must not want others blessed if I don’t forward this to at least 7 others. Or whatever other statement of disaster is posted in the closing. I have become so critical of these that frankly I don’t read them with an open heart anymore or read them at all.
Until this morning.
I read the email and my heart was initially offended.
I went up to take a shower and get myself ready for the day.
(I have some great moments of thought and revelation in the shower, maybe that is T.M.I., but wonder how many of you would agree that it’s a great place for thinking?)
And it dawned on me…
Holy Spirit is a catalyst to us, prompts people to write books or a blog, give great sermons and talks, brings us to pray, unction’s us to just go visit, many things we are prompted to do by Holy Spirit’s intervening. Can we not be prompted to send an email?
All things work for the glory of God…right?
So I re-read the email. I had to laugh at myself. It wasn’t a chain email at all. In fact it was a sweet prayer and gesture to “Dear Woman of God,” that’s me and so many other wonderful ladies I know. (and be sure to include the Dear Men of God)
The point of this blog?
Do you maybe need to re-visit something/someone that initially offended you?
Is that really what it/they said?
What if your heart’s attitude was more like Christ requested? They will know we are Christians by our love. “By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” (John 13:35 NIV)
Let us look past the offense and see more of Christ in them and us.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
This day has nothing to do with Christian love, yet everything about Christian love is what it should celebrate!
Consider these verses from the New International Version of the Bible:
John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.
Mark 12:31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”
May God bless you as you love those around you today in the name of Jesus Christ!
Happy 1st Sunday ya’ll! Hope that church is a part of your regular routine. Not just going to go, but going because you know our Creator Father God and have relationship with His son Jesus Christ. What hope do you have for eternal salvation otherwise? What value is there in life if you have not this relationship?
To be a good person is one thing, to be good to others another. But truly if you have not accepted Christ as Lord and Savior in your life, well then you are going to hell in a handbasket as the saying goes.
Sounds a bit down and in your face I am sure. Know though that love is where it is at. Why else would Christ have said, “They will know we are Christians by our love.” Not by our hatred or rudeness to one another, but by our love. So it is in the spirit of love that this be posted. So that you might know Him.
John 3:16~For God so loved the world that He sent His one and only Son that whosoever believeth in Him shall have everlasting life.