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29 years of Wedded Bliss, OK maybe not always Bliss

Today my Honey and I celebrate 29 years of wedded bliss.  OK maybe not always bliss.  We have been married more than half of my life.  I have known him since I was almost 12.

Many of you know our story, but some of you don’t.

Rod and I met when I was in foster care.  His sister Fay was my foster parent, who later became known as mom, and to this very day is my mom!  When we came into her care way back when, Rod was then considered my uncle and he was the cool kind of uncle that always brought his guitar and played songs we could hear off the radio and some goofy ones I’d never heard before.  One of which I heard on a cassette tape (yes this was back in the day) and I fell in love his voice from that point on.  I had a crush on him when I was 12 which I eventually out grew, since he was 12 years older than me and was committed to someone else at the time.

After I graduated and got a place of my own I became engaged and had asked Rod if he would sing at the wedding.  He refused.  I was heartbroken and very disappointed. How could my cool uncle Rod not sing, he did it for all the rest of the family!

A couple months more went by and I called off the engagement.  I discovered that being espoused to someone addicted to pot and an alcoholic was not a healthy choice and God got me out of there!

Another few  months later Fay, me, and Rod started hanging out on Friday and Saturday evenings going bowling, out to eat, and enjoying each other’s company.  Rod began coming over and we would tinker around in my dad’s workshop.  I was attempting to build a shelf and Rod had volunteered to help me.  I needed an oil change done on my Ford Torino and he went with me to K-Mart to get the supplies.  Simple adventures and a romance between Rod and I began.  We were kind of keeping it quiet for a while because of the age difference and knowing that once it was out, that I was dating my uncle, the family may be a bit undone.

We were right about being concerned.  It was hard at first.  Rod’s daughter was only 3 and a half when we started dating and people wanted to make sure she would not be confused and unsettled.  Many wondered how 2 people with the track record we each had could even be successful at dating, let alone getting married.

I have told many family members, friends, and others over the years the testimony of Rod and I.  How God is so good about turning things around.  He took two people that did everything backwards and created a new direction of forwards for us.  We are together today because of the great love we share for each other and in Jesus Christ.

We could never have surpassed the odds of still being married without the hope we have and belief we share in a Savior that heals and provides a way for each and every one of us.

Our life together is fairly simple in that we don’t do much in spending for celebration, but we do, do much, in recognizing the moment, each other, and God for such an incredible journey.  We will probably go grab a cup of coffee and take a brief walk to commemorate our day.  We have agreed to do the fancy meal after Valentine’s Day has come and gone and the prices return to somewhat normal.  (Part of the hazard of choosing a wedding date so close to the sweetheart’s day.)

Remember I mentioned above Rod not wanting to sing at my wedding to another man.  Well the truth about this came out later after Rod and I had been married for some time.  Rod confessed that he did not want to sing because he discovered he was jealous and did not want me to marry that man, but him.  (Ah how sweet)

Happy Anniversary to my Honey and Happy Valentine’s Day to those of you who are reading this, may God bless you and keep you always!


Here is a great story about keeping romance alive and well by an acquaintance of mine Jodi Dietrick


Resolution, Regret, and a bunch of other “R’s” for 2012

For several days now I have been prepping myself for the “New Year”.  How about you?  How much time do you spend wondering about the year to come and how you will be spending it?  And what your Resolution(s) will be?

tfc or That Fish Church is the church my husband and I pastor.  We lead a small family fellowship on Sunday evenings and I have been getting ready for the “New Year’s” day sermon.  I have been reviewing top lists of the most often stated New Year’s Resolutions and spending time reading scriptures about regret, resolved, relationships, and restitution.  There are so many “R” words to consider.

John Maxwell gave me another “R” word as I listened to “A Minute with Maxwell” the word reflection.  (

This is the first year in many, very many, that I personally do not feel as defeated in the area of weight loss and healthy choices.  Not because I have even come close to reaching the goal, but because I have actually managed to stay focused and somewhat committed to the goal.  Thanks to some wonderful gal friends of mine I am walking 2 or 3 times a week.  I have been to the gym, not consistently, but I have been!  I have modified my eating habits and it has helped me to hate the scale less.  Instead of gaining the dreaded 10 pounds through the Holidays, I lost 10.  So my resolve is improving and that is encouraging!

I read an article this morning in the Tacoma News Tribune about a Fircrest teacher Wendy McConkey that lost 302 pounds; she began her process in 2006.  Her journey really was a 5 year goal and how wonderful and amazing her transformation is and how impacting for those of us who struggle with weight.

Here is another link to view as you decide and consider your New Year’s Resolution(s) for 2012 it is a discussion on not regretting regret by Kathryn Schulz ( and the value of making a decision and regretting it almost immediately, but learning not to regret regret.

I read a blog post by Laura Anderson about her 2011 resolution ( and how she had made it her goal this year to blog at least once a week, and she did it!

The point of this blog?  Well I have not done a blog entry since last April (that resolution went by the way side way to fast) and it is time to get back to it and to not regret having failed at it.  To not give up!   To keep running the race as Paul would say in the New Testament book of Philippians.

Choose your resolutions with resolve.  Huh?  Daniel 1:8 (NIV) “But Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine, and he asked the chief official for permission not to defile himself this way.”  He purposed in his heart and went forward with that purpose.  He asked permission because it was needed for his request.  Sometimes we need permission from our spouse, family, friends, or employer to pursue that which is before us such as going back to school or changing careers.  Certainly seek God’s wisdom in your choice; “Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.”  2 Cor 7:10 (NIV)

Wishing you a very blessed and accomplished 2012.  Consider the “R” choices and choose wisely my friends.

Bruises as a Visual Reminder

I got out of the shower today and was getting dressed. I notice on my right forearm a quarter sized bruise and wondered where did that come from? I do not remember smacking my arm against anything recently or anything hitting me with that kind of force, what it takes to leave a bruise. I touched it with my pointer finger and did not feel any pain. Hmm deep enough to leave a mark but no pain when pressure is applied that’s odd. Our past life experiences are sometimes like that. We have some hurts that left a scar but by the grace of God and the blood of Jesus Christ they don’t hurt anymore. We may see or remember these bruises from time to time. Often we refer to them as our testimony. Maybe it was abandonment, divorce, abuse, neglect, addictions or whatever the case may be. Somehow by our act of laying these down before the cross the pain has been removed. We have walked through the healing process and moved on and see that there is life after such a tragedy. For others when they see the visual reminder the pain is immediately there! The agony of the hurt inflicted while going through the divorce or abuse lingers and they have not let God heal them. They are so used to wearing the pain and have become a victim of the action that they seem to not know any other way to respond. I hear it from time to time as I minister to people. The victim tone. My husband and I were facilitating a time of worship and Bible study recently for a group of men recovering from drug and alcohol addictions. One man came up to us afterwards and asked for prayer, but in his asking did more wining than confessing. He was being wrongly accused and set up. Now it is true that this happens, but it was his tone in the describing of the events that caused concern. Do you know what I am talking about? Think about it for a moment. Is it not true that sometimes we so love the attention and concern that we get when we wear our bruise or badge as a horrible accusation or infirmity that only we have ever had to bear! The ole woe is me story and no one else has ever been through this like I have! I am not assessing judgment here just pointing out the difference of allowing God’s healing verses continuing to wear the bruise. The choice is up to you. What are you going to do?

Happy 1st Sunday 2011!

Happy 1st Sunday ya’ll!  Hope that church is a part of your regular routine.  Not just going to go, but going because you know our Creator Father God and have relationship with His son Jesus Christ.  What hope do you have for eternal salvation otherwise?  What value is there in life if you have not this relationship?

To be a good person is one thing, to be good to others another.  But truly if you have not accepted Christ as Lord and Savior in your life, well then you are going to hell in a handbasket as the saying goes.

Sounds a bit down and in your face I am sure.  Know though that love is where it is at.  Why else would Christ have said, “They will know we are Christians by our love.”  Not by our hatred or rudeness to one another, but by our love.  So it is in the spirit of love that this be posted.  So that you might know Him.

John 3:16~For God so loved the world that He sent His one and only Son that whosoever believeth in Him shall have everlasting life.

Please consider.